If you think you can't be sexy, think again. Sexy isn't just about how you look, it is about being the best you can be and being comfortable in your skin. Sexy is about confidence, be confident. Learn to cultivate and use your sexuality and you will be sexy.
•The first thing you need to do is let go of the past and any hang ups you have regarding sex. Forget about the past. Shed your inhibitions. Today is a new day and you are a new and sexy woman. (If you have serious issues from the past, like abuse, please seek professional )
•Work on overcoming your shyness and self doubt, the number one secret to sexiness is self confidence
•Boost your self esteem. All women struggle with their self esteem and self image at some point. Change what you can, accept and love what can not be changed. There is no miracle or magic trick that works for everyone, find your own cure. A good way to start is through exercise. Exercise can make you strong and sexy; it also boosts all those feel good chemicals in your body.
•Improve yourself, tune into your inner femininity and your inner sex goddess. Learn to be the best you can be. Take classes, try new things, be open to new experiences. Get a makeover, try a new look. Change can be very good.
•Learn some sexy moves; take a dance class like belly dancing, hip hop, a Latin dance class or even an exotic dancing class - any of these teach you how to move your body like a sex goddess.
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Friday, January 22, 2010
Interview, Guest Blog and Giveaway with Leslie Lee Sanders
Welcome Leslie Lee Sanders. Thank you for joining us today.
Thank you for having me, Roxanne. I’m thrilled to be here.
Q; How long have you been a writer? What was your first published work?
Thank you for having me, Roxanne. I’m thrilled to be here.
Q; How long have you been a writer? What was your first published work?
A: Well, technically, I’ve been writing most of my life, but first considered myself a writer in 2005 when I published Three’s a Crowd. Three’s a Crowd, or TAC which I like to call it, is MMF erotic fiction or erotic romance as most folks would call it. A description in five words? Three college students in love. Now, image all the possibilities in a story with that tagline.
Q: Out of all the stories/books you’ve written, which is your favorite?
Q: Out of all the stories/books you’ve written, which is your favorite?
A: I’ve written five books since Three’s a Crowd and that includes one revised and extended edition of the same book. By far, TAC is my favorite. I favorite TAC so much that I continued writing the story as a free series which I update regularly. I know, I know but what can I say? I’m an addict.
Q: Do you have a favorite character that you’ve created? One that is especially close to your heart?
Q: Do you have a favorite character that you’ve created? One that is especially close to your heart?
A: Hmm . . . To pick one character is very tough. The three main characters of TAC are like my babies. Each of them has something special about them that make the story what it is. For instance, Marc, who just might be my favorite, is the ying of Brian’s yang. He’s the complete opposite of his lover. He’s a little anxious, totally average and low-key. But despite what one would think are his flaws he’s also funny, outspoken and crazy fun in bed. I think of Janice as a mixture of both Brian and Marc or neutral, the balance of the two personalities. But Marc’s insecurities about how others perceive him mixed with his certainty of who he is, is what makes him my favorite.
Q: Do you have a set schedule for writing or do you just go with the flow?
Q: Do you have a set schedule for writing or do you just go with the flow?
A: I flow. I’m a flowing writer. I refuse to schedule a specific time to write even if my life depended on it. Otherwise I’d be late, I’ll get fussy, and whine and cry because nothing is going as planned. No, not really. It’s just easier to go with the flow when it comes to writing.
Q: Do you need to be in a specific place or atmosphere before the words flow? Do you have a ritual that you do before sitting down to write?
Q: Do you need to be in a specific place or atmosphere before the words flow? Do you have a ritual that you do before sitting down to write?
A: Now that’s a question and the answer is yes. I need a specific atmosphere before I could allow the words to flow. The writer hat is only one of the many hats I wear. Another hat I wear is the mommy hat. You know, the one with finger-paint and smears of chocolate syrup on it? I have trouble getting into a story when an 11 and 8 year old are running around complaining about their doll’s missing limbs. Once they’re at school or asleep, it’s writing time.
Q: If you could offer one tidbit of information for new writers, what would it be?
Q: If you could offer one tidbit of information for new writers, what would it be?
A: Do not think just because you’ve written a book that it is an automatic bestseller. Newbies are prone to this kind of thinking; even I had to learn the hard way. It takes reading, learning and continued writing to hone your craft. Trust me. It’s may be possible to be that renowned bestseller of your dreams but it requires very, very hard work to just scratch the surface.
Q: Do you have a “day job” or do you write full time?
Q: Do you have a “day job” or do you write full time?
A: Yay, for caregivers! To help support the household I also work as a caregiver for disabled adults. Before caring for the disabled I was a medical assistant. I think it’s my nature to care for people in need. But referring to your previous question, I think all new writers should know that most writers need a second job to support their families. Unless you are as gifted or as lucky as Stephanie Myers, you’ll need a second source of income especially at the beginning of your writing career.
Q:What are some of your hobbies besides writing?
Q:What are some of your hobbies besides writing?
A: Believe it or not I sing and record my own music and I also oil paint seascapes and landscapes, all for fun. But what I enjoy doing most is making funny movies, music videos and commercials with my two little girls.
Q: In closing, tell us a bit about your latest release. Feel free to share an excerpt.
Q: In closing, tell us a bit about your latest release. Feel free to share an excerpt.
A: BladePublishing.org has published my novella What a Girl Wants in 2009. What a Girl Wants is also an erotic story that leans toward the threesome category.
Blurb:
Trisha has a lot on her mind and it all relates to her material possessions. Her neighbor Kato tries convincing her that he can make her happy, as her lover, but she’s convinced that he has nothing to offer. Later he shows up with a gift and her desire peaks. She can’t refuse the gift or him.But they both have secrets.Trisha’s been sleeping with Kato’s best friend, Bryson. He’s the rough bad boy that knows what a girl wants. But when the boys put on a late night window show, she’s left aroused and surprised. Is Kato sleeping with Bryson too?Feelings start to emerge which leaves her confused and intrigued. She’s an exhibitionist with an obsession for material things, and two gorgeous men want her. Can she erase her greedy side? Can she make them all one happy trio?
Excerpt:
Kato walked toward the door and Trisha quickly grabbed his hand to prevent him from leaving.
Blurb:
Trisha has a lot on her mind and it all relates to her material possessions. Her neighbor Kato tries convincing her that he can make her happy, as her lover, but she’s convinced that he has nothing to offer. Later he shows up with a gift and her desire peaks. She can’t refuse the gift or him.But they both have secrets.Trisha’s been sleeping with Kato’s best friend, Bryson. He’s the rough bad boy that knows what a girl wants. But when the boys put on a late night window show, she’s left aroused and surprised. Is Kato sleeping with Bryson too?Feelings start to emerge which leaves her confused and intrigued. She’s an exhibitionist with an obsession for material things, and two gorgeous men want her. Can she erase her greedy side? Can she make them all one happy trio?
Excerpt:
Kato walked toward the door and Trisha quickly grabbed his hand to prevent him from leaving.
“This is the best gift I’ve ever gotten from anyone.” She held his hand as she spoke. “I do appreciate it.”
She pressed her other hand against the baby soft skin of his cheek. He smiled warmly while looking into her eyes. She took the chance and moved her lips forward, brushing them across his. He let out a moan and she took that as an invitation. She kissed him deeply and seductively.
Slowly, she felt the tip of his tongue with hers and felt heat under his caresses. He gently rubbed up and down her back and let his hand tangle in her hair. Suddenly her head went back as he gently pulled her hair to gain access to her neck.
Trisha wasn’t expecting that but she nearly melted. She was surprised that he was aggressive when he was aroused and she liked it. He nuzzled her neck, gently biting and sucking. Trisha let him taste her heated flesh as long he kept her tingling. For giving her the shoes she could give him that much.
“Put your shoes back on.” His voice was deep and filled with lust. “I want to feel you while you’re wearing them.”
Trisha didn’t object at all. Quickly, she put her shoes back on and threw herself in his arms again. Trisha was so wrong in assuming he was an inexperienced boy. He kissed her more passionately than Bryson ever did and he took charge naturally. His arms were strong, a plus. She knew because he lifted her up and sat her down on the countertop. He stood between her legs and slid her shirt up and off.
Trisha let him fondle her breasts. He gathered them in his hands and gently squeezed. He pressed them together and smothered his face between them, breathing into her cleavage. She loved the feeling of his hot breath between her breasts. He massaged them in his hands and rubbed his thumbs over her erect nipples. Then he clasped his warm, wet lips over the hard nub and sucked it.
“God,” Trisha moaned and let her head fall back. She reached down between their bodies to rub the hardness in the front of his jeans. Doing that made her crave it. “Will you make me feel good, Kato?”
“I’ll do whatever you want me to.” His voice caught for a second. “I’ve been waiting for so long.”
Trisha quickly unbuttoned and unzipped his pants, stuffing her hand inside of his boxers to feel him. She grabbed his erection and gently squeezed, feeling it jerk slightly in her hand.
“You’re so hard.” She loved the feel of a hard man in her hand.
“For you.” He kissed her neck. “Always for you.”
“Did you bring a condom?” She always practiced safe sex no matter how wet and ready she was.
Kato reached into his pocket and pulled one out. Trisha snatched it from his fingers and placed the corner of it in her mouth. With her hands she tugged his jeans down over his hips and watched his hardness spring to life. It smacked against his stomach as she freed it. She didn’t waste any more time. She opened the packet with her teeth and pulled the latex out. She placed it over his gorgeous cock and grabbed him, wrapping her legs around his hips.
“You sure you want it in the kitchen?” Kato asked.
No man had ever made it to her bed. “Yes,” she said. “I want it here.”
“You won’t regret this.” Kato slowly pressed his thick erection into her waiting, hot pussy. They both let out a moan. He slowly thrust his hips gliding himself in and out. She felt every inch of him with her tightness. He groaned. “Trish, you feel so good.”
“Don’t stop,” Trisha panted. God, she was in ecstasy. The shoes on her feet made her legs look perfect. She felt like a celebrity. And Kato felt so good inside of her. She would have never guessed that he could make her feel so great and just like a woman. Trisha didn’t want to admit it but he was right, he knew what a girl wanted and he was proving it in the way he fucked her.
He pressed his face into her neck and licked and tasted her skin. “Oh, I could do this forever,” he moaned.
The Thrill of Threesomes in Erotic Fiction
If you browse the web pages of some of the more popular erotic romance e-publishers, you will find that most of them dedicate a category of their books to threesomes. They may label it threesome, ménage, or group. Despite the name they choose, I think it’s fair to presume “erotic romance with a sexual relationship involving three or more participants” is a very popular genre.
As popular as it may be, not every “group sex” reader enjoys all the different types of group sex or threesomes that are portrayed in fiction. Now, I’m a big fan of threesomes in fiction but only the MMF, MFM or MMM types. I don’t find enjoyment in characters who participate in sex with more than two people at a time. Ialso find it hard to enjoy lesbian sex or FMF fiction because it’s hard to find FMF reads, probably because they’re not so popular with the average female reader, and second I enjoy reading about sexy men way too much.
The Thrill of Threesomes in Erotic Fiction
If you browse the web pages of some of the more popular erotic romance e-publishers, you will find that most of them dedicate a category of their books to threesomes. They may label it threesome, ménage, or group. Despite the name they choose, I think it’s fair to presume “erotic romance with a sexual relationship involving three or more participants” is a very popular genre.
As popular as it may be, not every “group sex” reader enjoys all the different types of group sex or threesomes that are portrayed in fiction. Now, I’m a big fan of threesomes in fiction but only the MMF, MFM or MMM types. I don’t find enjoyment in characters who participate in sex with more than two people at a time. Ialso find it hard to enjoy lesbian sex or FMF fiction because it’s hard to find FMF reads, probably because they’re not so popular with the average female reader, and second I enjoy reading about sexy men way too much.
This, I believe, is the reason erotic fiction which features two men and a woman is so popular. Most erotic romance is aimed at the female reader. We read it, we write it and it satisfies us more than the traditional romance novel ever has. In ménage fiction, we love to read about strong female or male characters who are in love and lust and who has a bit of Superwoman or Superman hiding in them somewhere, yet we can still relate to them emotionally. It’s classic.
The Superwoman in our character is the girl that is so attractive inside and out that two men are willing to risk their reputation, friendships, careers, or what have you, to satisfy this woman and to win her heart. They’re even willing to share her, that’s how amazing she is. Also, a part of the Superwoman experience is that she is able to successfully satisfy two men at the same time. It’s as if she has amazing, sexual super powers. Wow, huh?
I believe that’s the thrill of threesome relationships in fiction. The thought of taking two men on the ride of their lives and having them both do the same for you. Even gay threesomes have that thrill attached to it. Any way you spin it, that Superwoman (or Superman) experience is what keeps me curled up on the sofa late at night with some good threesome fiction. It’s three times more fun to read. Wouldn’t you agree?
Leslie Lee Sanders
Author of Fiction and Fiction with Spice!
You can visit at www.leslieleesanders.com
And be sure to visit Three’s a Crowd the free online erotic series at www.threesacrowd3.com and the TAC blog at http://threesacrowd3.blogspot.com
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Thursday, January 21, 2010
Love Letters and Inspiration with Tierney O'Malley and Win an E-copy of Wicked Persuasion
Please welcome today's guest author, Tierney O'Malley!
I’ve been asked many times about where I get my ideas on what to write. My answer is always, everywhere. It’s true. I get ideas from my children, movies, people I see at the store, hospital. Everywhere. Even on the upper shelf in my walk-in closet.
For my latest book, Wicked Persuasion, the love letters that I received from my husband were behind the story. Yes, I introduced Diana and Todd in Wicked Proposal as secondary characters who had the hots for each other but were trying to deny and hide their feelings. Of course, they failed miserably. They each have their own reason for doing it, which I didn’t clearly define in Wicked Proposal. When I finally decided to write their story, what I had wasn’t enough. Yeah, they were in love, but what else?
One day, I was looking for old pictures to scan when I happened to look at my special collection of love letters. And then voila! It hit me. I can use love letters as my foundation for Wicked Persuasion. Throughout the story, I wrote a snippet of Diana’s letter to Todd.
Brande of Book Junkie wrote in her review, “…Tierney posted Diana's letters to Todd sporadically throughout the book which will tear at your heart and make you wonder, can all be forgiven? Can you erase the past and move on? The love Diana once carried for Todd, is it still alive and strong enough to make it till the end?”
Here is the blurb:
For successful businesswoman, Diana O’Connor, it was love at first sight the moment she met Todd at the age of seventeen. She didn’t waste time expressing her love through letters. But after a year of no response from him, she accepted the shattering truth that her brother’s best friend, Todd Fox, will never see as her more than an annoying brat. She moved on and loved another.
Years later and unexpectedly, Todd expressed his love and asked for her hand in marriage. When she refuses to believe him, he tries all the wicked ways to make her accept his love. Including the most explicit sexual intimacy imaginable. This fuels her desire and sweeps her away.
Top-notch engineer, Todd William Fox, never intended to hurt Diana’s feelings by ignoring her letters. She was young and off-limits. Now, after years of watching her turn into a beautiful headstrong woman, he loses his heart to her. When Diana’s brother gives him the go signal to pursue her, he sets out on persuading Diana into his arms and into his bed. But will the chatterbox Diana give her heart the way she yielded her body to him—wholeheartedly?
Doesn’t it feel wonderful when someone courted you through love letters? I’m talking about letters written using a pen with ink. Not a keyboard and sent via the Internet. Nowadays though, with the new high tech gizmos, most women receive their letter through texting, instant messaging, email, or even chat rooms. Kind of sad really. Courtship took quite a wide turn in the past years.
Do you think courtship is a dying trend or it still exists but modernized? Do you still prefer getting handwritten love notes or computerized?
Leave a comment. Let’s chat.
By the way, I am giving away a free PDF copy of Wicked Persuasion to one visitor when it is released on February 1, 2010.
Lastly, thank you Roxanne for giving me this privilege to blog at Roxanne’s Realm.
Sincerely
Tierney O’Malley
Romance Author
I’ve been asked many times about where I get my ideas on what to write. My answer is always, everywhere. It’s true. I get ideas from my children, movies, people I see at the store, hospital. Everywhere. Even on the upper shelf in my walk-in closet.
For my latest book, Wicked Persuasion, the love letters that I received from my husband were behind the story. Yes, I introduced Diana and Todd in Wicked Proposal as secondary characters who had the hots for each other but were trying to deny and hide their feelings. Of course, they failed miserably. They each have their own reason for doing it, which I didn’t clearly define in Wicked Proposal. When I finally decided to write their story, what I had wasn’t enough. Yeah, they were in love, but what else?
One day, I was looking for old pictures to scan when I happened to look at my special collection of love letters. And then voila! It hit me. I can use love letters as my foundation for Wicked Persuasion. Throughout the story, I wrote a snippet of Diana’s letter to Todd.
Brande of Book Junkie wrote in her review, “…Tierney posted Diana's letters to Todd sporadically throughout the book which will tear at your heart and make you wonder, can all be forgiven? Can you erase the past and move on? The love Diana once carried for Todd, is it still alive and strong enough to make it till the end?”
Here is the blurb:
For successful businesswoman, Diana O’Connor, it was love at first sight the moment she met Todd at the age of seventeen. She didn’t waste time expressing her love through letters. But after a year of no response from him, she accepted the shattering truth that her brother’s best friend, Todd Fox, will never see as her more than an annoying brat. She moved on and loved another.
Years later and unexpectedly, Todd expressed his love and asked for her hand in marriage. When she refuses to believe him, he tries all the wicked ways to make her accept his love. Including the most explicit sexual intimacy imaginable. This fuels her desire and sweeps her away.
Top-notch engineer, Todd William Fox, never intended to hurt Diana’s feelings by ignoring her letters. She was young and off-limits. Now, after years of watching her turn into a beautiful headstrong woman, he loses his heart to her. When Diana’s brother gives him the go signal to pursue her, he sets out on persuading Diana into his arms and into his bed. But will the chatterbox Diana give her heart the way she yielded her body to him—wholeheartedly?
Doesn’t it feel wonderful when someone courted you through love letters? I’m talking about letters written using a pen with ink. Not a keyboard and sent via the Internet. Nowadays though, with the new high tech gizmos, most women receive their letter through texting, instant messaging, email, or even chat rooms. Kind of sad really. Courtship took quite a wide turn in the past years.
Do you think courtship is a dying trend or it still exists but modernized? Do you still prefer getting handwritten love notes or computerized?
Leave a comment. Let’s chat.
By the way, I am giving away a free PDF copy of Wicked Persuasion to one visitor when it is released on February 1, 2010.
Lastly, thank you Roxanne for giving me this privilege to blog at Roxanne’s Realm.
Sincerely
Tierney O’Malley
Romance Author
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
The Man's Guide to Buying Women's Lingerie
No matter how adorable she looks in sweats or how comfortable she is in flannel pajamas or maybe she wears lingerie for you...but it's the same stuff you've seen a hundred times, you are dying to see her in something a little more racy. Yeah she still gets you hot whatever she wears...or doesn't wear; you are just craving something different.
So what do you do? Do you risk telling her you are bored with her choice of bedtime attire and risk hurting her feelings...or worse, making her angry? Or do you take matters into your own hands and go on a shopping trip?
Obviously you are going on a shopping trip. But where do you start? What should you buy? What size should you get?
First of all you have to envision the things your woman likes and wears so you can get an idea of what colors and styles she likes.
For instance a woman who likes basic solid color clothing probably would not be thrilled if you brought home some funky animal print teddy. Nor would a woman who prefers bold and dark colors like blood red, purple, midnight blue, or black be very happy with some pale pink fru fu nightie. A conservative woman might be a little embarrassed if you expected her to wear a short latex skirt and tube top.
But if she's into latex, leather, bold animal prints and wilder, revealing clothing than by all means get her something risqué.
Keep reading here.
So what do you do? Do you risk telling her you are bored with her choice of bedtime attire and risk hurting her feelings...or worse, making her angry? Or do you take matters into your own hands and go on a shopping trip?
Obviously you are going on a shopping trip. But where do you start? What should you buy? What size should you get?
First of all you have to envision the things your woman likes and wears so you can get an idea of what colors and styles she likes.
For instance a woman who likes basic solid color clothing probably would not be thrilled if you brought home some funky animal print teddy. Nor would a woman who prefers bold and dark colors like blood red, purple, midnight blue, or black be very happy with some pale pink fru fu nightie. A conservative woman might be a little embarrassed if you expected her to wear a short latex skirt and tube top.
But if she's into latex, leather, bold animal prints and wilder, revealing clothing than by all means get her something risqué.
Keep reading here.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Dating on a Budget: Ten Fun Dates That Cost Little to No Money
Money woes killing your love life? Here are ten budget friendly dates that cost little to no money.
While they might not impress or be appropriate on the first date they're perfect for those already in an established and comfortable relationship.
Romance doesn't have to cost a fortune and it is often the littlest things that end up meaning the most and will become the memories you cherish.
1. Look for free events in your area. Summer time is full of festivals, concerts and outdoor shows. Local parks often offer art in the park, movies under moonlight, and music in the park. They are usually free, of course vendors are usually there charging excessive fees for drinks and food but you could always pack a picnic basket.
2. Visit art galleries or museums with free admission. Add some culture to your life; it may be a completely new experience for you. Enjoy it...for free and with the one you love.
Keep reading here.
While they might not impress or be appropriate on the first date they're perfect for those already in an established and comfortable relationship.
Romance doesn't have to cost a fortune and it is often the littlest things that end up meaning the most and will become the memories you cherish.
1. Look for free events in your area. Summer time is full of festivals, concerts and outdoor shows. Local parks often offer art in the park, movies under moonlight, and music in the park. They are usually free, of course vendors are usually there charging excessive fees for drinks and food but you could always pack a picnic basket.
2. Visit art galleries or museums with free admission. Add some culture to your life; it may be a completely new experience for you. Enjoy it...for free and with the one you love.
Keep reading here.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Sexy on a Budget
Is your sex life in need of a boost but your budget's too tight to buy new lingerie? You can get creative with budget friendly lingerie alternatives by breathing new life into old stuff lurking in your closets and drawers. Don't fret about the government's stimulus package when you can use what you already have to create all the stimulation your partner can handle.
Try these budget savvy seduction tips to give your sex life a boost without spending a dime.
What's in Your Closet?
What ordinary items are lurking in your closet that can be transformed into extraordinary tools of seduction?How about all those sheer tops that you prudently pair with camis and tanks? The guy in your life will love it if you decide to walk around the house in one of those sheer numbers with nothing else on; it's what he fantasizes about every time you wear one of those tops. Give the man what he wants- you won't be sorry.
What else is lingering in your closet waiting to be used seductively? How about those old Halloween costumes? Little Bo Peep, Harem Girl, Police Officer, Flapper? Any can be transformed with a little role playing into something totally new and extremely sexy. Put on the costume and delve into the role of seductress.
Speaking of role playing, there are all kinds of role playing costumes you can easily create out of items you probably have in your closet. Boss and secretary, librarian and bookworm, rich woman and servant, cowboy and country girl or maybe go old school and be an Indian maiden to his rough cowboy.
Continue reading here.
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