Saturday, June 16, 2018

Bisexual Visibility- Don't Drop the B

There are those who want to "drop the B" in LGBTQ. Really shitty topic to be pushing during Pride month. 

Some alt-right 4channers trying to cause problems have stirred things up and some in the LGBTQ community are supporting the #droptheb hashtag.

Who are they to decide who someone is attracted to?

Homosexuals and heterosexuals are OK because they choose one sex to love but a bisexual is ridiculed because they don't adopt a pan or omnisexual title?

No one should be told who to love. Gay, straight, bi or whatever you decide to label yourself as.

Bisexual erasure is nothing new.

Bisexuality has often come under fire as being fake, there are those who believe it does not exist.

Seriously? Bisexuality is the most natural thing in the world. I think we're all born with the ability to love anyone but society tells us we are supposed to love males or females based upon our own gender.

And I do get that's where part of the argument comes in. Gender is a social construct so we should include more than male or female and by saying you're bi you are excluding anyone who doesn't fit into the male or female checkboxes. That it excludes those who do not identify in the gender binary. 

But the term "Bisexuality does not just mean an attraction to two genders, but an attraction to people of any gendered or non-gendered persuasion – which has been noted by several members of the community." (Pink News 6/15/18)

"Leading bi advocate and author Robyn Ochs defines bisexuality as "the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” (GLAAD)

I think the biggest issue is that people are afraid of those who can walk in two worlds- whether it is bi-sexual, bi-racial, or anything else. People like to be able to label and put others into tidy boxes.

Being bi-sexual is not neat or tidy not even for those who are bi. But they have the right to identify however they want. Bi can be inclusive of everyone, they are or can be open to being attracted to whoever regardless of that person's sexual or gender identity.

For others being bi means that they know they are attracted to binary males and females but are not or have not yet been attracted to anything outside of the binary. So perhaps down the line they may change their identity to pansexual.

"Some people who have the capacity to be attracted to people of any gender choose other words to describe their sexual orientation, such as bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, fluid, or queer. Some people prefer to avoid any label at all." (GLAAD)

For more about Bi-Erasure and Bi-sexuality please visit

6 Misconceptions About Bisexuality


5 Ways to Combat Bi Erasure in the LGBT Community

Beyond Invisibilty