Improve Your Love Life with Feng Shui

Improve Your Love Life with Feng Shui

Roxanne Rhoads

Has your love life lost its luster? Maybe your boring bedroom is to blame. You can revamp your room into a romantic retreat by using the ancient art of feng shui (pronounced fung shway).

You are probably wondering how moving your furniture around can improve your sex life, right? Feng shui is so much more than how furniture is arranged. It is cooperation between person and place. Feng Shui uses the connectedness of all things. The building blocks of feng shui are the yin-yang (female-male) balance and chi (energy), and that’s what sex is about - female, male and energy.

With feng shui, romance begins in the yin (feminine) vibration of your room. Yang (male) energy should be kept to a minimum in the bedroom. Excite the chi (life-force/energy) in the room by creating a romantic and passionate atmosphere.

Feng shui is all about enhancing the environment around you to create a positive flow of energy. By taking into account colors, compass directions, natural elements and proper placement of furniture and other items in a room, feng shui techniques can alter what occurs in the rest of your life. There are some simple things you can do to incorporate feng shui into your bedroom and enhance the flow of sexual energy to invigorate a stagnant love life. One simple suggestion by feng shui expert Ellen Whitehurst is to hang 2 intertwining 27 inch red cords on the inside your bedroom on the doorknob to bind love energies to you.

You can start out by creating a love shrine in the right hand corner of the bedroom (from the entrance). This area should be dedicated to symbols that remind you of romance and passion. These symbols will activate the energy of love. You could use erotic art, a sculpture of two lovers, a heart shaped object, two hearts intertwined, crystal prisms or a mobile. Place items there that would be meaningful to both partners in the relationship.

The next thing you should do is arrange your bed. In feng shui the location of the bed is a very big deal. You should be able to see the door from the bed but not be directly in front of it. Your head should not be towards the door. The headboard should be firmly against a wall not a window. There should be nothing under your bed so chi can flow freely around it. You should not be able to view your bathroom from your bed. If you bed is on the same wall as a door this can cause disagreements between a couple.

Another simple thing to do is add some visual stimulation to the room. There is no place more perfect for sensual art than in the bedroom. Nothing is more suggestive than piece of attractive erotic art hung over the bed. Erotic paintings and sculptures can be put throughout the bedroom to supercharge sexual energy.

Here are some more simple dos and don’ts that can help turn your bedroom into a romantic and erotic retreat.

Do: Feng shui expert Nancilee Wydra suggests starting seduction at the door with a sensual scent. A spicy scent like cinnamon apple is sexy and uplifting. My personal favorite is a custom blend of apple cinnamon and vanilla.

Don’t: According to feng shui guidelines, clutter is the biggest no-no, no matter what room you are in. Clutter blocks the flow of chi and does not allow positive energy to flow freely. Get rid of everything that reminds you of old lovers; photos, letters, gifts, even sheets and mattresses. Your bed should belong to you and your current lover alone. It should be a shrine and testament of your love for each other. Also make sure everything in your room is neat and in good working order. Broken doors and windows, peeling paint, drawers that don’t open – all these cause negative energy to loom in the room. Make sure your door opens all the way and that the lock works.

Do: Arrange everything in pairs to symbolize a union- two candles, two paintings, or two sculptures. If you are in a relationship have photos of you and your lover around the room. If you are married a wedding photo of just the two of you would be perfect. Other great photos would be of the two of you on vacation or any photo of the two of you that depicts your happiness as a couple.

Don’t: Do not have just one of something. One item is lonely; two represents the happy union of a couple. Avoid anything that represents loneliness. Make sure to have two night stands, and display photos and paintings in pairs, two vases, etc. Also avoid having photos of children, friends and family in the bedroom. The bedroom should be a romantic retreat for a couple, it is a private space. Keep everyone else out of the room.

Do: Invoke the passionate fire element by using candles, oil lamps or a roaring fire if you are lucky enough to have a fireplace in your bedroom.

Don’t: Do not have water elements in the bedroom, it is prohibited. Get rid of fountains, fish tanks and anything depicting water scenes. That means you need to keep photos, paintings and anything associated with water out of the room. Water clashes with the fire element, the element of passion that should take precedence in the bedroom. Water in the bedroom can lead to financial loss and loss in your relationship.

Do: Have furniture and objects in your room with soft feminine curves. Avoid pointy male objects. Think of round pillows, hearts, and an oval ottoman - anything with natural curves instead of harsh lines.

Don’t: Do not have too many objects in your bedroom that give off male energy. Get rid of “work” objects, objects that produce yang (male) energy like televisions, computers, exercise equipment, etc. If you have to keep a TV or computer in your room keep those in a cabinet that has doors you can close at night.

Do: Enhance the passionate energy in your room with objects and paintings in shades of red, pink and garnet. Feng shui principles suggest placing a red object on the woman’s nightstand to increase eroticism in the female partner, and for the male partner a piece of copper should be placed on his night stand. Copper represents the male essence and enhances male eroticism. You could use a tiny jar of copper scraps or any object made of copper. To preserve sexual receptivity in both partners place a ruby or garnet on each nightstand. These stones are very powerful in attracting the opposite sex.

Don’t: Blues and greens are a big no-no in the bedroom. While cool colors represent calm and relaxation to some people, feng shui guidelines suggest that you stay away from cool colors like blues, whites, grays, and black. White walls are especially bad. The Chinese associate the color white with death; talk about a major mood killer!

Do: Incorporate natural materials in your room such as fur, leather and wool. For your bedding you should use natural cotton or silk. Avoid synthetics like polyester. Also try to keep the room gender neutral. Flowery prints, lacey curtains, stuffed animals everywhere- they are not romantic, they are too frilly. Rich comfortable fabrics, warm colors and neutral designs are best for a libido lifting room.

Don’t: Do not keep plants in the room. Remove all plants and flowers, whether living, dead or artificial- they need to go. Plants can overpower the yin energy in the room and if they are dead, they give off dead energy.

By incorporating the elements of feng shui into your bedroom you not only alter the way your room looks, but you can also alter the experiences you have there. By following the principles of feng shui you can change the energy that flows around you and stimulate sensual and sexual arousal in both yourself and your partner.